Charity Workshop
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Consent & Desire
Introduction to the
Wheel of ConsentÂź
In my new workshop »CONSENT & DESIRE« you will learn how to find out what you want and how to effectively communicate it.
Some say, that consent, boundaries, clarity and ethics are limiting and restricting passion, emotions, lust and romance. I believe that it is quite the opposite! Anyone who has ever received an enthusiastic âHell, yes!â, regarding touch or a sexual activity of any kind, knows that!
Workshop Testimonials
»Ondraâs Consent & Desire Workshop is a soft yet powerful intro to conscious and consent-based intimacy. Thanks to Ondraâs intuitive approach to giving guidance and holding space, I could very much enjoy the opportunity to explore my desires, communicate boundaries and meet my partner on a deeper level in a trustful and loving way. A precious learning experience I am very grateful forâthank you for the 3hour mind-stretch and fun!«
»I went to this workshop to learn something new, but I had no idea what it would be, because I promised a friend to come before I even knew the workshopâs topic. It's amazing how much it was about my current situation and how quickly I used it in my everyday life. I think, it is very important to realize within us what we really want, and if our body responds with a NO, we should think about it, whether it is really necessary to do it.
Thanks, Ondra, for the wonderful presentation and explanation of all situations. I really liked that the whole course was one big game!!! I have visited a few workshops in the past, that have often been very interesting, but it was difficult to keep the attention because of the overwhelming large amount of input the lecturer gave us... With Ondra it was quite the opposite!!! He always had 100% of my attention, even though there were really good cookies on the table đ đ.
Thanks to all the exercises I was able to understand and perceive how my body reacts â often the reaction was a big surprise. I would definitely recommend the workshop to everybody, because I think that around this topic anyone will find something interesting, because everyone sometimes said YES, even if they did not want it, and then we did something that took a lot of energy, and we didnât get anything back.«
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»This workshop has helped me to realize my personal boundaries in a simple and very effective way and to learn to respect other peopleâs boundaries better. I had the opportunity to observe my comfort zone and test it in safe interactions with other workshop participants. During the activities I was able to experience how I feel in different situations and how to peacefully stick to my own decision. I felt safe, so I was able to overcome shame and learn to listen better.
Everything took place in a respectful atmosphere with clear information, where everyone could even decide (according to their needs) whether they wanted to participate in the activities or not. I would recommend the course to all who want to understand each other better and be more stable and satisfied with themselves in interaction with others.«
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»CONSENT and DESIRE«
Practice knowing what you want, learn to ask for it!
A playful and fun three-hour introduction
to consent, choice and desire.
à» Have you ever said âYESâ, but actually meant âNOâ?
à» Have you ever said âNOâ, but actually wanted to say âYESâ?
à» Did you ever receive a “gift” which you didn’t want?
à» Was it ever difficult to ask for something you longed for?
à» Have you ever been ashamed of your desire?
à» Have you ever been unclear and hesitant about what you wanted?
If your answer to any of these questions is âYESâ, you might be interested in exploring the dynamics of consent and how to more clearly and fully express your desires. In the 3-hour experiential workshop Iâm offering, you will experience why a âNOâ is always a âYESâ to something else; why âNO.â is a complete sentence; why consent, boundaries and clarity donât limit and restrict passion, emotions, lust and romance, but quite the opposite! You will learn that clear and unambiguous choices can be fun, pleasurable and sexy.
I believe that only when you know what you want, can you ask for it. Only when you know what you donât want, can you set and clearly communicate your boundaries. Only when you are able to say âNOâ, can you also enthusiastically say âYESâ (and visa versa).
â WHAT WEâLL COVER:
This workshop CONSENT & DESIRE is not about some abstract moral conceptâit is about exploring the dynamics of consent, noticing how consent feels in our bodies and minds, and then taking responsibility for our choices.
Questions weâll explore:
à» How does it feel to say âYESâ?
à» How does it feel to say âNOâ?
à» How do you notice what you want?
à» In what circumstances and environments might it be challenging to know what you want?
à» How easy or difficult is it to voice what you want?
We will explore the dynamics of giving and receiving with playful interactive exercises and games. We will practice how to make agreements before interacting with each other. We will learn why a felt and embodied sense of safety is essential for any human interaction.
One of the practices we will use is what I call the “Just for You Game”, also known as the “Three Minute Game” invented by Harry Faddis and used by Dr. Betty Martin as a foundation to develop her renowned The Wheel of ConsentÂź.
The Wheel of ConsentÂź is a model of consent based on (but not requiring) exchanges of touch. The Wheel notes the distinction between the âdoingâ aspect of the touch dynamicâwho is doingâand the âgiftâ aspectâwho it is for. The workshop follows the principles of The Wheel of Consent, but does not teach it in its entirety.
Workshop Dates
»CONSENT & DESIRE«
Charity Workshop for the Victims of the Ukraine War
đ Due to current events: 50% of the proceeds of my workshops “CONSENT & DESIRE” go directly to people in need in Ukraine. Learn to know and feel your own limits while supporting people in great distress.
There are only workshops offered in German at this moment. Would you like to attend my workshop in English or Czech or be would you be interested in hosting one in your city? Please, get in touch!
Next workshop dates (in German):
đ Mon, Sept. 26, 2022 (19-22h) · ANANDA · Cologne, DE
đ Sat, Oct. 22, 2022 (11-14h) · ANANDA · Cologne, DE
Would you like to host my workshop in English? Please, get in touch!
For details on workshops in German and Czech, check the following events:
â CONTACT:
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about the event:
Ondra
e-mail: hello@ondra.li
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telegram: https://t.me/ondra_li
â WHAT TO BRING:
Comfortable clothing that will not restrict your movement and will make you feel good about yourself. Water bottle.
â SAFETY & FRAMEWORK:
Consider all exercises and interactions during this event as an invitation. All activities are optional. You will not be required to participate in any exercises if you don’t feel like it. All choices are honored. You may choose to learn simply by observing. At this event we will remain fully clothed.
People of all sexual orientations and gender identities are welcome.
This workshop is influenced and inspired by the Wheel of ConsentÂź as developed by Dr. Betty Martin. While I have trained with Betty and other School of Consent Facilitators on various occasions, I am not a certified Wheel of ConsentÂź Facilitator. For more information visit: https://ondra.li/wheel
â ABOUT THE FACILITATOR ONDRA VELTRUSKĂ:
Ondra is a Somatic Sexuality and Intimacy Coach trained by and working in the tradition of the Australian Institute of Somatic Sexology (ISS). He guides people to be more present in their bodies and minds, and supports them to make wise choices in the realm of intimacy and pleasure. He lives in Berlin and Prague. Ondra is enthusiastic about Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of ConsentÂź model and its contribution to help individuals in finding their voice and choice. He has taken The Wheel of ConsentÂź for practitioners training âLike a Proâ in Belgium (2018) and hosted it in Prague (Czech Republic) one year later. He became an official »Wheel of ConsentÂź Workshop Facilitator« in training in 2021.
Ondraâs Wheel Story:
» https://ondra.li/wheel-of-consent/#my-wheel-story
» web: https://ondra.li
» facebook: https://fb.me/ondra.li
Overview Workshop Dates
Workshop name | Date | City | Venue | Language |
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WHEEL OF CONSENT WORKSHOP | June 16-18, 2023 | Rösrath near Cologne (DE) | RAUM FĂR ACHTSAMKEIT | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Apr. 15, 2023 | Rösrath near Cologne (DE) | RAUM FĂR ACHTSAMKEIT | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Feb. 27, 2023 | Rösrath near Cologne (DE) | RAUM FĂR ACHTSAMKEIT | DE |
WHEEL OF CONSENT WORKSHOP | Jan. 27-29, 2023 | Rösrath near Cologne (DE) | RAUM FĂR ACHTSAMKEIT | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Jan. 15, 2023 | Cologne (DE) | DAKINI (Ebertplatz) | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Dec. 4, 2022 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Oct. 22, 2022 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Aug. 3, 2022 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Jun. 25, 2022 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | May 21, 2022 | Berlin (DE) | IM NEUEN RAUM | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | May 3, 2022 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Dec. 5, 2021 | Rösrath near Cologne (DE) | RAUM FĂR ACHTSAMKEIT | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Nov. 6, 2021 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Aug. 24, 2021 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Sep. 19, 2020 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Aug. 23, 2020 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Mar. 10, 2020 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
TOUHA a SOUHLAS | Mar. 1, 2020 | Brno (CZ) | CESTA INTEGRITY | CS |
TOUHA a SOUHLAS | Jan. 29, 2020 | Brno (CZ) | CESTA INTEGRITY | CS |
CONSENT & DESIRE | Jan. 22, 2020 | Cologne (DE) | ANANDA | DE |
TOUHA a SOUHLAS | Jan. 16, 2020 | Prague (CZ) | CS |
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TOUHA a SOUHLAS | Dec. 17, 2019 | Prague (CZ) | CS |