Wheel of Consent®
von Dr. Betty Martin
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Most frequent questions and answers about
The Wheel of Consent®
The Wheel of Consent® (also referred to as ‘the Wheel’ or the ‘WOC’) is a model of consent based on, but not requiring, exchanges of touch. The Wheel notes the distinction between the ‘doing’ aspect of the touch dynamic — who is doing — and the ‘gift’ aspect — who it is for.
Once the distinction between those two aspects is clear, the entire touch dynamic becomes clear, which brings ease, sensuality, confidence, self-responsibility and freedom to the interaction.
The WOC grew out of two question, in which two people take turns asking each other How do you want to touch me? and How do you want me to touch you? …for 3 minutes. The 3 Minute Game was born.
In these two questions are 4 different dynamics which create the 4 quadrants of the wheel — serving/accepting & allowing/taking. It is these two questions and the response that create the circle of consent, or the agreement.
Download the Diagram of The Wheel in the following languages: BG, DA, DE, EN, ES, FR, HE, HU, NL, PT, RU, SV, ZH.
The ”3 Minute Game” was invented by Harry Faddis and refined by Dr. Betty Martin who used it as a foundation to develop The Wheel of Consent.
Two questions are asked: (1) How do you want to touch me? and (2) How do you want me to touch you? …for 3 minutes.
You can also download the printable 3 Minute Game instruction booklet (PDF) in various languages (BG, DE, EN, ES, FR, NL).
VIDEO: How to Play the 3 Minute Game:
VIDEO: The 3 Minute Game – How it Started and How to Play it. Betty Martin in conversation with Harry Faddis (Easton Mountain, New York, USA 2015):
The School of Consent is a training organization promoting the values and skills of the Wheel of Consent, as developed by Dr. Betty Martin. It offers courses, events, coaching and consulting for professionals, individuals & couples, and businesses.
The videos – The videos are a great start, but you will need the experience that will make a difference.
Like a Pro – A five-day course for hands-on and other practitioners to learn the basics of the Wheel of Consent, assessment protocols, and how to make your sessions safe, effective and satisfying.
Official Wheel of Consent® Workshops and Events by Wheel of Consent Certified Facilitators and Facilitators in Training. These workshops use the official curriculum developed by the teaching team at the School of Consent.
Join the School of Consent’s Newsletter to be notified about new workshops.
Dr. Betty Martin is very generous with sharing her wisdom. The diagram and dozens of videos are her free gift to us all. However, the dynamics around The Wheel are more complex that they might seem. If you are keen to share it and teach it, please follow her requirements:
LIKE A PRO
School of Consent co-founders Matt Schwenteck and Robyn Dalzen and the local coordinator Ondra Veltruský
About the Video
LIKE A PRO in Prague 2019
School of Consent co-founders Matt Schwenteck and Robyn Dalzen and the local coordinator Ondra Veltruský share their passion about Betty Martin’s WHEEL OF CONSENT. They bring The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners training “LIKE A PRO” to Prague, Czech Republic in June 2019.
The Wheel of Consent is a model of consent based on (but not requiring) exchanges of touch. The Wheel notes the distinction between the ‘doing’ aspect of the touch dynamic — who is doing — and the ‘gift’ aspect — who it is for.
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▶︎ The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners training LIKE A PRO in Prague (CZ) in June 2019:
▶︎ LIKE A PRO’s EUROPE TOUR 2019 by Betty Martin, Robyn Dalzen and Matt Schwenteck: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uiS1t2SzBmo
▶︎ SCHOOL OF CONSENT co-founders Betty Martin, Robyn Dalzen and Matt Schwenteck introduce the WHEEL OF CONSENT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDtXJuLBluI
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Find School of Consent Official Site: http://schoolofconsent.org
Find Betty Martin’s Official Site: https://bettymartin.org
Find School of Consent on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/schoolofconsent
Find School of Consent on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo5fiaI5h1IVMpcPGuHRdiw
Ondra's Blog Posts about
The Wheel of Consent
5 persönliche Überlegungen zum Konsensrad®
In diesem Post kommen einige meiner persönlichen Einblicke bezüglich des Wheel of Consent® (Konsensrad) von Dr. Betty Martin zur Sprache.
📰 Lori Johnston: Embodied Consent: Learning the Art of Giving and Receiving Touch
📰 Rupert James Alison: The Wheel of Consent Explained
The Wheel in the Press
📰 The New York Times · These Educators and Activists Can Help You Navigate Intimacy Now (Dec. 15, 2020) Also published in the Chicago Tribune.
📰 The Guardian · Tears, honesty and flirty games: how we escaped our married sex rut (May 19, 2019)
📰 Stuff.co.nz · Consent: why it is so complicated (March 16, 2019)
📰 taz.de · Zu Besuch in einem Kurs zu Konsens: Du und ich. Ja oder nein (May 29, 2019 )
📰 DiePresse.com · Sex und Übergriffe an Thailänder Yogaschule (September 16, 2018 )
Wheel of Consent
Free Introduction to
The Wheel of Consent
Prague, Czech Republic
Monday, June 3, 2019
6:30-9:00pm, arrival at 6:15pm
A conversation with touch practitioners, those who are interested in becoming one, and those who are partnered with one. Somatic sexuality educators, bodyworkers, touch providers…
Are you doing what your clients allow you to do, or what they want you do to? And what about when they want to ‘give’ to you? How does it all fit, to keep both of you safe and happy?
Short presentation, lots of discussion, and a brief introduction to Like a Pro.
Location sent upon registration.
This is a free event, but we will be accepting donations at the door to cover the cost of the venue.
My "Wheel" Story
I was introduced to The Wheel of Consent in 2016 at an introduction by Dr. Betty Martin in Prague and it kept fascinating me ever since.
The 3 Minute Game and the Bossy Massage proved to be useful approaches for clients to explore their empowerment and consent on a somatic level in my individual sessions. In my blog post »To Wheel or Not To Wheel—that is the question!« I share five personal observations about The Wheel. In a podcast episode »What is sex for you?« (German) I discuss my work, the Consent & Desire workshop and how I include the Wheel of Consent in my individual session work.
In 2017 I participated at the Consensual Touch™ Weekend with Katie Sarra and Kian de la Cour from the Sea School of Embodiment in Davon (UK).
In 2018 I studied with Dr. Betty Martin at the Like a Pro (The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners training) in Antwerpen (Belgium).
In 2019 I was offered to host the Like a Pro training in Prague (Czech Republic), which was led by the School of Consent co-founder Robyn Dalzen. I have interpreted an introduction evening to the Wheel of Consent facilitated by Robyn Dalzen to Czech. I had the opportunity to teach the 3 Minute Game and Bossy Massage to first year students at the Embodiment Intensive of the certification programs in Sexological Bodywork and Somatic Sex Education facilitated by Uma Furman and Deej Juventin from the Australian Institute of Somatic Sexology (ISS).
In early 2020 I have launched a workshop »Consent & Desire«. It was offered 8 times with 80 participants in total in German and Czech before Corona paused it.
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