Breaking Silence and Complicity in the Field of European Sexological Bodywork

[ Dieser Beitrag auf deutsch: »Schweigen brechen, Mitschuld aufdecken, Verantwortung übernehmen: Ethische Probleme im Europäischen Sexological Bodywork (Sexologische Körperarbeit)« ]

UPDATE: March 8, 2021 , unchanged as of December 2021:
»A reflection on FEMINISM, CHOICE, COMPLICITY and SILENCE« and how most Sexological Bodywork and Somatic Sex Education professional associations, leaders, teachers and influencers remain complicit and continue explicitly and silently enabling and supporting unethical practices, retraumatization in trainings, abuse of power and sexualized violence.


UPDATE: April 25, 2019: »Open Letter to the Communities of Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork« by Christiane Pelmas and Ondra Veltruský.<

Presenting an ethical statement around sexual boundary violations commited by teachers in the field of Sexological Bodywork. Read and support the “Somatic Sex Education Statement of Ethical Teaching” which I co-authored. This post on facebook.

“You’re only as sick as your secrets.” In a pioneering study, psychologist and University of Texas professor James Pennebaker and his colleagues studied what happened when trauma survivors—specifically rape and incest survivors—kept their experiences secret. The research team found that the act of not discussing a traumatic event or confiding it to another person could be more damaging than the actual event. Conversely, when people shared their stories and experiences, their physical health improved, their doctor’s visits decreased, and they showed significant decreases in their stress hormones.

—Brené Brown (2012): Daring Greatly. How the Courage to Be Vulnerable
Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.
page: 82 [Read full quote]


Preamble of the Statement

In response to sexual boundary violations being reported in our field of Somatic Sex Education / Sexological Bodywork, a small group of teachers and practitioners convened over six months to 1) create the foundation of an ethical statement to which we can all hold each other accountable, 2) to break silence and complicity, 3) to address and interrupt harm and 4) to develop a process through which those who have been violated/harmed by teachers and practitioners may report the incident, tell their stories and receive essential support and resources toward their healing. This statement—meant to be a beginning, not an end—is the result of that work.

By signing this statement you demonstrate your commitment to ethical, boundaried professional and teaching relationships that honor the power dynamic inherent between teachers and students, practitioners and clients.

We stand together in solidarity with high ethical expectations of each other and our global, diverse and multi-cultural professional Somatic Sex Educator / Sexological Bodyworker community.

» Read the full statement:

About the Author

Ondra Veltruský

Ondra Veltruský

Ondra is a Somatic Sexuality and Intimacy Coach trained by and working in the tradition of the Australian Institute of Somatic Sexology (ISS). He guides people to be more present in their bodies and minds, and supports them to make wise choices in the realm of intimacy and pleasure.

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